Confident vs. Arrogant
In Delivering Women, I wrote about my first impression of Peter Coleman when I met him over ten years ago. He was confident. He had integrity, strength of character, wisdom, and sobriety. I didn’t see domineering, I didn’t see ego, and I didn’t see pride in him. I saw a man who clearly bore a secret Source of self-confidence that I had never seen before from a Christian. What others failed to see in him then, and what some still fail to see in him now is that his confidence was based not on the esteem he had for himself, but on the esteem he had – and continues to have – for God. A very simple secret it was, but a very real one that abides in him to this day.
You see, while you can easily convince Peter Coleman that he is imperfect, not a man alive can convince him that God is imperfect. You will hear Peter Coleman saying that he lacks faith in himself, but you will never hear him say that he lacks faith in God. There are some who accuse him of being arrogant, others who assume him to be egotistical, and there are even a few who have made it their life’s work to bring him down, but it just won’t happen. It won’t happen for the simple reason that they will have to bring God down first.
That is the difference between confident and arrogant. It’s quite simple, really. Confident Christians place their faith in God. Arrogant Christians place their faith in themselves, and only pretend to give it over to God about once a week or so in a splendid performance of false humility.
What is your Source of confidence?
“For we are the circumcision, which worship God in the spirit, and rejoice in Christ Jesus, and have no confidence in the flesh” (Phil. 3:3).
“So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me” (Heb. 13:6).
“For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek” (Rom. 1:16).
“I sought the Lord diligently, and he hearkened to me, and delivered me from all my sojournings. Draw near to him, and be enlightened: and your faces shall not by any means be ashamed” (Ps. 34:4-5).
“And now, little children, abide in him; that, when he shall appear, we may have confidence, and not be ashamed before him at his coming” (1 Jn. 2:28).
“Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost” (Rom. 15:13).
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Tim. 1:7).
“(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;)” (2 Cor. 10:4).
Peter Coleman led me to Christ in late 2003. I had two sources of Christian teaching at that time: the King James Bible and Peter Coleman. About two years later, Peter and I were married, my spiritual life was healthy and growing, and one night I had a dream.
In my dream, I could fly. I knew that God was with me, empowering my flight, so I felt immortal. As I flew over a city filled with dark, concrete buildings, I noticed a demon standing unafraid on a roof, watching my approach. I knew who he was and why he was there. I also knew that he couldn’t stop me. He had no power over me, and all I had to do was keep flying. I headed straight for him, flew through him and completely destroyed him, leaving nothing behind. Then I went on about flying, summersaulting and rejoicing through the air. When I woke up shortly after, I praised the Lord in gratitude. I knew what He was telling me. I had the utmost confidence in who? In HIM.
Do you think that as a Christian, indwelt with the Holy Spirit which is the power of God, you can defeat a demon? Of course you can. Do you think that armed with the Word of God, you can resist the devil? Of course you can. Do you think that your Father in heaven will ever leave you or forsake you? Never. Are you assured that your eternal life is secured by God Himself, that He keeps your soul, that He is the Author and Finisher of your faith? If you do then your hope is not in vain in the Lord!
So why are so few “Christians” acting like it? Why are so many churches filled with weak characters who are too afraid to evangelize, too afraid to quote the Bible, too afraid to stand firm in their faith, too afraid to defend the Word, too afraid to be hated, and too afraid to separate themselves from the world?
Jesus overcame the world. We are “more than conquerors through him” (Rom. 8:37). He that is in us is greater than he that is in the world (1 Jn. 4:4). So why are so many “Christians” acting like they’re on the losing side?
God has crowned us with glory and honour. He has made us partakers of His divine nature. He has revealed the mystery of His will to us, which is the way of salvation, ordained before the foundation of the world unto glory. He knows all those who love Him and is reserving a place in heaven for each one of us. Who are the winners and losers in this scenario? There are no losers in Christ Jesus!
It’s time to realize the power you have in Christ. You are special and invaluable not because of your own merit, but because of Christ’s, which covers you. Allow that truth to penetrate the walls of fear, doubt, and guilt that surround you and let it change you from within.
You will begin to love people in a completely different way. You will no longer see their exterior, but their inner need for Christ. You will no longer care for the things of this world, but the things of God. Any hatred or malice that you once nursed for others will depart from you. Petty jealousies will flicker and die. You will see other people’s motives clearly, but instead of proffering them lower esteem for being carnal, you will pity them with godly compassion and reach out to them in the spirit of love. You will see the work of the devil all around you, and seek to thwart him… because you can.
“Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil” (Eph. 6:10-11).
Christian, you are a child of God, a co-heir with Christ, a partaker of His glory – stop shrinking into your turtle shell and start shining like the sun.
Thanks for reading.
Peter and Paige