Why do we Love to Hate?

Why do we love to hate?

Recently, I’ve been perusing the comment section of some Christian forums, Q&A, and blogs. I’ve been astonished and appalled by “Christian”: a) contention, b) anger, and c) hatred.

Many “Christians” love to debate the little things. Unbelievably, they can invest an entire week of their time and energy into winning a futile point online against a faceless adversary. Also, instead of just debating the point, they name-call, use angry words, and they contend from a position of ego rather than fact.

Titus 3:1-9 puts it so well:

"Put them in mind to be subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates, to be ready to every good work, to speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness[1] unto all men. For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving diverse lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another. But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost; which he shed on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Saviour; that being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life. This is a faithful saying, and these things I will that thou affirm constantly, that they which have believed in God might be careful to maintain good works. These things are good and profitable unto men. But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain."

If “Christians” are busy debating and arguing one another over the small things, who’s labouring for the big things – for the kingdom of heaven? Who’s reaping the plentiful harvest that God has provided? Who’s preaching the gospel of salvation to them that will believe? Who’s suffering for the name of Jesus? We know who: the meek, the lowly, the humble, the gentle, the obedient, the peaceable – all those who labour for the “meat which endureth unto everlasting life” (Jn. 6:27b).

You see, we should expect to be branded “haters” by the world for the right reasons – namely for daring to tell them what the Bible says. If we rely on Biblical authority and teach others (in meekness and gentleness) the wages of sin and need for a saviour, they might not want to accept that. They might call us haters for daring to point out their sin and need for a saviour.


They might come to know the love of God and be converted. That is worth fighting for; that is worth being called a “hater” for, and it requires neither anger nor hatred on our part to accomplish. That is worth being mocked or scorned over, and it invokes neither pride nor ego. It gives us jewels in our crown of glory.

Contrarily, perhaps some of us are being called “haters” because we are. For example, the debate over homosexuality (Lev. 18:22, 20:13) is turning many Christians hostile, and it’s gaining momentum. Christians are blaming homosexuals for the defilement of America. Let’s see if this is true.

God says that nations are defiled by the abominations committed by its people (Lev. 18:27, Ezek. 44). Homosexuality is indeed considered an abomination, but is it the only one God speaks of? No. Take a look at the other “abominations” that defile a country:

  • Women who wear men’s clothing and men who wear women’s clothing (Deut. 22:5)

  • Making money by exploiting or cheating others (Deut. 23:18, 25:16, Prov. 11:1)

  • Remarrying your first wife after having been divorced and married to another (Deut. 24:4)

  • Lying (Prov. 12:22)

  • Marrying an unbeliever (Ezra 9:11)

  • Idolatry (Deut. 32:16)

  • Ungodliness (Prov. 15:9)

  • Unrighteous thoughts (Prov. 15:26)

  • That which is esteemed highly among the worldly (Lk. 16:15)

  • Perverse ways (Prov. 11:20)

  • The prayers of the disobedient (Prov. 28:9)

  • Anyone whose name is not written in the Lamb’s Book of Life (Rev. 21:27)

Take a hard look at this list and ask yourself who is responsible for defiling the nation by committing an abomination against God. I doubt if any of us are innocent of every point on this list. Furthermore, didn’t Christ die for all, including your enemies, just as much as He died for you? Had you not been “foolish, disobedient, deceived” (Tit. 3:3) before coming to know Him?

We should call ourselves saved, if we truly are. Yet, we should not forget that we were once lost. Remembering this every day should keep us sober, and remind us always of God’s loving mercy. He died to save the sinner. He came to heal the sick. Will we curse the man whom God made in His image (Jas. 3:9) without acknowledging that we, too, deserved to be cursed and once were?

Let’s judge righteous judgment when we’re walking in the Spirit. Let’s stop loving ourselves so much that we fail to recognize our own sin. Let’s embody the love of Christ by serving others and obeying His commandments. Let’s “be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect” (Mt. 5:48).

Thanks for reading.


[1] Remember – “meek” means to not be easily offended. A meek Christian can be insulted, attacked, hurt, mocked, hated, or persecuted and yet feel no anger or bitterness toward her offender.


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